Are We Dating?

Trying to figure out your relationship status with someone isn't always easy. Every relationship that you have is different, and it's not uncommon to find yourself thinking about where you and your partner fall on the relationship spectrum and where your current connection is possibly heading. Fortunately, there are five key ways that can help to clue you in as to where you stand with your partner so you no longer have to wonder, “Are we dating?”В

1. You Spend a Lot of Time Together

If you're wondering if you and your partner are officially dating each other, you should take a closer look at the time that you spend together. Do you only hang out at two in the morning after a late-night text in which this person invites you over? Or do you spend multiple days and nights with one another throughout the week? When you're dating someone, the two of you will want to spend as much time as you can together and will put in everyВ effort to plan dates and outings. Further, your time together will enable you to connect on a deeper and meaningful level. On the flip side, if you're just hooking up or areВ friends with benefits, you may hang out from time to time and then not see or hear from this person for a while, only to receive a random text from him or her again on a whim.

2. You Talk About the Future

When you're trying to determine if you're dating, it's important to pay attention to the content of your conversations, especially when it comes to discussing your future together. Are you both planning ahead to set up times to hang out, inviting each other to events that are months away, or even discussing going on a trip together? When you're actually dating someone, conversations and plans for the future will come naturally. But if you notice that your partner is avoiding these kinds of topics, is vague about planning anything far-off, and refuses to think about anything past a few days or even hours from right now, the odds are that you're not dating this person.В

3. You've Met Each Other's FriendsВ

If you're dating someone, it's not uncommon to introduce each other to your respective group of friends. However, if you've noticed that you haven't met any of his or her crew and that this person tends to avoid the topic if possible, you're not yet at the dating phase. In most circumstances, when you're actually dating someone, you'll want to introduce him or her to your friend group not only to find out what your friends think of him or her, but to see how he or she fits in with the other important people in your life. For example, is this person fun, engaging, and outgoing when he or she's with your friend squad, or is your partner awkward, standoffish, or even obnoxious? If his or her friends are nowhere to be found, then you're not really dating.В В В

4. You Open Up to Each Other

How much do you really know about the guy or girl you're seeing? When you're dating someone, you'll both want to open up to each other and share personal stories and anecdotes in order to get to know each other better and connect on a deeper level. When you're both emotionally investing in each other by revealing more about who you are as a person, this is a clear sign that you're dating. However, if you find that you don't know very much about your partner beyond the superficial and that he or she is secretive, aloof, or emotionally unavailable to you, then you're not really dating. This person is choosing to keep you at a distanceВ and opting to put up barriers between the two of you rather than trying to build upon your connection and bring you closer together.В

5. You've Had the Talk

If you're trying to determine if you and your partner are dating, you can always choose to sit down and have a real conversation about the current status of your relationship. While it may seem scary or intimidating at first, it's important that you act as your own advocate and speak up for yourself about what you'd like to have with this person going forward. Whether you're looking for something serious or something more casual, checking in with this person and engaging in a face-to-face conversation can help to manage expectations and prevent potential heartache down the road. If you're not sure if you're dating or where you stand, it's in your best interest to talk about what's going on between the two of you so that you're not wasting your time with someone who doesn't want the same things that you do. And importantly, there are times when this kind of conversation can help to solidify and confirm that you're both into each other and that you both want to take your current relationship to the next level.В